You may have a lot of pent-up feelings like anger, guilt and anxiety threatening to break free. But if you are not careful, they can catch up with you and influence your actions and decisions without you realizing it. Before you start the process, take some time to learn how to make your separation easier to manage.
Communicate
Divorce is one process that often breaks down for many couples. Instead of talking to each other so they can make decisions that speed up their separations, they argue, fight and refuse to communicate effectively for an amicable resolution. If you do not want your separation taking longer and costing more than you expect, you and your partner should work on keeping the lines of communication open. The less the courts have to intervene, the less time it will take to finalize your divorce.
Cooperate
Approach the situation with the intent to cooperate with your spouse. If you tend to feel upset every time you see or think about him or her, try to keep those feelings out of the way. Arrange your meetings during times where you feel less stressed and more capable of cooperating. Consider mediation if you and your former partner are willing to work together but are not sure of how to proceed with your divorce. You should also consider making a list you can refer to during meetings with your former partner to help keep you on track and your emotions from taking over.
Cope
One major issue that can have a significant impact on your ability to manage your situation is your mental state. Divorces are often taxing and stressful for everyone involved. Surrounding yourself with people who care and can help provide the emotional support and comfort you need. Participate in activities that keep you emotionally and physically fit and happy.
Staying in an unhealthy relationship can be toxic to your health and overall well-being. Keep a clear head and exercise patience and good sense so you do not make rash decisions that can make it harder for you to start anew once your divorce is finalized.